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[chhotii]

I'm not on Facebook. Never took the time to prepare my profile or grok their privacy settings. I did make an account once, can't remember the name (it was under an alias, which would confuse things if I used it at this point) but, like, never logged in so what's the password? I don't understand how Facebook is organized. I keep thinking it should work like LJ, but it doesn't.

Right now is not the right time for me to learn all about Facebook.

persis is representing me, as far as memorial planning stuff goes. (Fortunately she is on Facebook.) Rich's family is clear on that now. Other people have conveyed info between me and the world of Facebook, both directions, which has been very helpful. I don't think I need to micromanage things over there on Facebook, even though apparently there's a lot of talk. It would probably drive me mad if I tried to.

Persis and I are going to make a memorial service happen, which will accommodate 300+ people, which Rich's family and lots of other important people will attend. If some other people I don't know want to have some psychedelic rave in his honor, or whatever, they can do their own thing, just as Rich's grandfather can have his Catholic priest say whatever, that would be his own thing.

I have to be in charge of my own house-- it was Rich's house, but it's my property at this point. Mish and TB have been great about being all in-charge there and getting things done in the way I need them done, but they are probably pretty burnt out now. Rich's Dad is (temporarily) moving into the house starting tomorrow, so we can't have huge cleaning crews at all hours of the day and night any more. Rich's Dad will keep an eye on the place for me while he's there. Cleaning and organizing bouts will have to take place at specific dates and times from here on out. I don't know at this point how I will communicate to the world when it's cool to come out and help. Maybe through Mish; stay tuned.

Comments

[lyonesse.livejournal.com]

you are doing an amazing quantity of excellent and important stuff for rich's community. my hat's off to you.

facebook sucks. don't go there.

[weegoddess.livejournal.com]

WHAT SHE SAID

[ron_newman]

Message understood.

To what extent is it OK to either
(a) copy this post (and similar ones) over to the Facebook community and event, or
(b) link to these posts from the Facebook community
?

(option b would connect your Real Name to your LJ name, which is something you may not to do)

eta: tagging anotherjen since your last paragraph applies directly to a question she asked on Facebook

venues

[miss-chance.livejournal.com]

Are you still looking for a venue? If you are, suggestions to follow; if not, feel free to skip...

Have you looked at the Somerville Museum? They are entirely secular, but quite attractive and can be very formal looking. Being in S'ville they're geographically close to Asylum and other communities Rich participated in, without being grungy. They are rather reasonably priced. Cavaet, though, they are not handicap accessible. [here's a link to a not-great photo of the space, but it shows the staircase, which is a lovely feature, and those partition walls roll out of the way http://www.somervilleopenstudios.org/sos_stock/SOS_Stock/content/_1137421804_large.html].

Another place that came to mind is the Dance Complex in Central Square. Again, they are entirely secular, but have beautiful architecture. Plus they're a nexus for drumming and music, and again geographically close to some of Rich's communities. They are accessible, though slightly awkwardly so (wheel chair lift the rides up the big front stairs, and maybe a bit more spendy than the S'ville Museum.

Those are the two places that came to mind for me that have the capacity and the aesthetics while not being a church.

[persis.livejournal.com]

I have looked at the Dance Complex, but I think it is just not big enough, as I suspect there will be 300+. I am looking into the Museum, but I suspect it will be too small as well.

[ron_newman]

there's an extra stray ']' in miss_chance's link that makes it not work properly, so I'll repost it here:

http://www.somervilleopenstudios.org/sos_stock/SOS_Stock/content/_1137421804_large.html

The Museum is divided into a main room (where all public receptions, lectures, concerts, etc. happen) and a smaller side gallery where exhibits can be hung. The SOS photo shows the main room.

Nobody is allowed to be on the staircase or balcony because those things are just too delicate and fragile.

300 people in the Somerville Museum would feel pretty crowded and uncomfortable, I think. miss_chance, do you happen to recall what its official capacity is? I will be there tonight for SOS Wrap-Up and will try to find out as well.

[ron_newman]

adding to the above:

I find no rental or capacity information on the Somerville Museum's own website, but this page on the Somerville LIbrary website says the Museum's capacity is "100-150 persons". (That page also has contact and rental info)

[ron_newman]

I confirmed with the folks who run the Museum that it cannot hold 300+ people. They told me that sitting capacity is about 50, standing about 150.

[kimberlogic.livejournal.com]

you are doing so much and accommodating the needs & feelings of so many. i know we all want to be sure to be helping you enough so don't hesitate to say "hey, i need/want this now" to all of us

would a site/group on something like https://www.lotsahelpinghands.com be useful? or maybe a google doc/cal?
someone else could list tasks/days/times for you and folks could sign up there

[persis.livejournal.com]

When we get a venue and date arranged, then this site would be useful for setting up pot luck food, if that is what we decide to go with. Thanks for the suggestion! *hugs*

[tamidon.livejournal.com]

obvs I'm in for food stuff

[skreeky]

I don't think I need to micromanage things over there on Facebook, even though apparently there's a lot of talk.

There is a lot of talk, but it's mostly reminiscing about the old days (some of it REALLY old days).

Most of the "current planning" stuff has settled into relaying what you've said, and a few updates on where the cleaning project stands. Link to the Doodle poll is being bumped to the top of the page periodically so people see it. Persis and Ron are looking after your interests there when people start talking crazy ideas. It's not something you need to worry about adding to your plate.

[chhotii.livejournal.com]

Can it be un-bumped? (I am truly shockingly ignorant of how Facebook works.) I have closed the poll, as more data isn't going to help. I don't want it there frustrating people. Thanks!

[skreeky]

Will do.

[skreeky]

Nevermind, Ron already did!

[ron_newman]

"bumping" just means that someone adds a non-substantive comment to it which forces it back towards the top of the page. I added a comment saying that the poll is now closed, and listing the two dates that you picked from it.

ETA: if you pick June 7 afternoon and a location in or near Cambridge, some folks may want to proceed from the memorial event to the Cambridge River Festival's Firefly Sculpture Garden followed that night by Project MUM. (Both in Central Square this year.)

[drwex]

I'm glad you're focusing on the things that are most important to you. I'm also glad you have engaged and caring folk like Persis and TB to deal with other sorts of details. If I can be of help, let me know.

[kjc.livejournal.com]

I think you're doing an amazing job of focusing on what you need to do while going through an emotional maelstrom.

You've clearly got your interests covered, but if there are things that need doing, please don't hesitate to put them out there.