e-mail to Sophia's teacher
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chhotiiSubject: homework
Sophia did such a nice job on her homework Monday evening! So it was
disappointing to see the worksheet... still in her homework folder on
Tuesday morning.
Clearly Sophia needs some supports to help her learn to remember to do
whatever she needs to do to turn in homework.
I'm confused. Are there consequences at school for not getting the
homework done? If Sophia does the homework, but doesn't turn it in, is she
suffering the consequences? If she's suffering the consequences of not
doing the homework on days when she did do homework, is she protesting
about it? If not, why not? Did she forget that she did actually do her
homework? Does she not connect the consequence with the homework? Or does
she assume that the adult world is against her and that this has nothing
to do with justice? If there isn't a consequence for not doing the
homework, how do I keep reinforcing the message "homework is really
important this year and therefore you have to do it"? Am I supposed to
keep up this battle? I get fewer drawn-out exhausting battles if
expectations are consistent.
What's the routine for turning in homework? Is there some cue that's
supposed to prompt turning in homework at a particular time? If so, I
guess Sophia needs some training to make the right associations with that
cue. Or, are kids supposed to spontaneously remember at any random point
in the day to turn in their homework? That's very tricky without some kind
of external tool such as a to-do list, checklist, electronic reminders,
schedule, etc. I work with a bunch of adults (all over the age of 24, by
which point the frontal lobe is supposed to have developed) who cannot
manage to remember to file their electronic timesheets every weekend. OK,
so I guess that proves the point that one can be a successful adult
without managing to master a system of to-do lists and reminders. But if
this is going to exacerbate our homework battles, I'd like to either not
hold Sophia to an expectation that even adults can't meet, or get her
trained in using some kind of to-do list system that will remind her to
turn the homework in.
Thanks,
Sophia's mom
Am I making sense here? It's not that I want her teacher to take on more things that he has to remember (like remembering to get Sophia to turn in her homework).
Sophia did such a nice job on her homework Monday evening! So it was
disappointing to see the worksheet... still in her homework folder on
Tuesday morning.
Clearly Sophia needs some supports to help her learn to remember to do
whatever she needs to do to turn in homework.
I'm confused. Are there consequences at school for not getting the
homework done? If Sophia does the homework, but doesn't turn it in, is she
suffering the consequences? If she's suffering the consequences of not
doing the homework on days when she did do homework, is she protesting
about it? If not, why not? Did she forget that she did actually do her
homework? Does she not connect the consequence with the homework? Or does
she assume that the adult world is against her and that this has nothing
to do with justice? If there isn't a consequence for not doing the
homework, how do I keep reinforcing the message "homework is really
important this year and therefore you have to do it"? Am I supposed to
keep up this battle? I get fewer drawn-out exhausting battles if
expectations are consistent.
What's the routine for turning in homework? Is there some cue that's
supposed to prompt turning in homework at a particular time? If so, I
guess Sophia needs some training to make the right associations with that
cue. Or, are kids supposed to spontaneously remember at any random point
in the day to turn in their homework? That's very tricky without some kind
of external tool such as a to-do list, checklist, electronic reminders,
schedule, etc. I work with a bunch of adults (all over the age of 24, by
which point the frontal lobe is supposed to have developed) who cannot
manage to remember to file their electronic timesheets every weekend. OK,
so I guess that proves the point that one can be a successful adult
without managing to master a system of to-do lists and reminders. But if
this is going to exacerbate our homework battles, I'd like to either not
hold Sophia to an expectation that even adults can't meet, or get her
trained in using some kind of to-do list system that will remind her to
turn the homework in.
Thanks,
Sophia's mom
Am I making sense here? It's not that I want her teacher to take on more things that he has to remember (like remembering to get Sophia to turn in her homework).
